Archive for the ‘Dad’ Category

July 27 2007 – Sweet Potatoes

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

Comedy is largely based on the unexpected. We laugh because we didn’t see the punch line coming either because it is clever or because it is shockingly outrageous. Either way, it’s the surprise that is sometimes responsible for the laugh. So when I tell you that later on in this blog there will be a joke with “sweet potatoes” in the punch line, I am violating one of the fundamental laws of comedy. But when trying to decide what to call this blog, sweet potatoes was the first thing that popped into my head, perhaps because the aforementioned joke was a herald of potentially good news. I don’t know where the joke is going to be coming in this blog because I’m not Casey McCall and this isn’t English class so I don’t have a perfect little outline of my thoughts. Though, I know the joke is coming later so perhaps I am a bit like Casey McCall. You might not have guessed it by now, but this is a blog about my father. And now, we move on to the flash back portion of the blog. We begin in 1985. (more…)

June 16 2008 From a Saturday to a Sunday

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

            A lot happened last week in my family. A good indication of this is that yesterday, on Father’s Day, I talked on the phone to all three members of my immediate family and it took three phone calls to do so because each one was in a separate place. (more…)

June 27 2008 – Myths I’d Rather Not Have Busted

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

        The movie Radio Flyer has one of my favorite segments in film. It’s about the myths we lose from childhood to adulthood. Blankets protect us from harm, monsters exist, and a towel when used as a cape lets us fly. Adulthood, it seems, is life’s slow dissolving of the myths we’ve always held dear. Fantasy slowly fades to reality. The tags on our presents read “From Santa” but are written in familiar handwriting. George Washington probably did tell a lie at some point. Dreams don’t always come true. (more…)

July 7 2008 – The Unwelcome Return of Iron Man

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

         There’s a lot more to say about everything, but some of it isn’t my place to say or to put in a blog, some of it is too disjointed. I write the following just to put my thoughts somewhere. I’m too tired and too confused to wrap my thoughts up in flowery language or analogy. These are my stripped down, simple thoughts and they have been going through my head since this past week. (more…)

July 14 2008 – One Week Later

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

 The past week was a strange one and one that was certainly unique in its meaning to my life. Though I am still grieving, and perhaps always will be in some way, I am in a different place emotionally than I was when I arrived back in Milwaukee that Sunday night. My thoughts are still random shades of dark. Some things that don’t seem connected to anything make me sad. Happiness seems to be the biggest doom of them all, but I’m getting better. 
 One thing that certainly was reaffirmed for me over the past few weeks has been the knowledge that I have good friends. Some contacted me by phone, text, email, or private messages. Even though I could tell some didn’t know what to say, the effort to say something was appreciated. Being in their thoughts was as well. I can’t fault them for not knowing what to say because honestly, I don’t know what to say either. I’m tired of breaking my record for the hardest time in my life, yet I seem to keep doing it. The top of my bookshelf is evidence of how strange the last month was. It’s littered with airline tickets, condolence cards, prayer cards from the services and still a few birthday cards. (more…)

July 21 2008 The One and 99 Record

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

          A friend of mine suggested I tell stories about my dad as kind of a way to keep him in my mind. Unfortunately I haven’t had time to see him in person, but the stories have been going through my head and so here is one I would like to share. Some good stories about my dad involve starting from a bad point, as the good event happened as an apology for a bad event. This story, however does not start from a bad place which is why I picked it. It’s also one of my favorite memories of growing up. (more…)

July 29 2008 – One Month Later

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

           It has been a month now since my mom called to tell me the news about my dad and I still find that I’m using bizarre sentence structure and vague phrases just to avoid typing certain things. I realize that I’ve written several blogs about everything that’s happened, but I suppose that’s why this is called My Space, and currently this is the focus of the space of my mind, and thus, the focus of my blog. I suppose for lack of better analogy, this is more or less a “state of Dwayne” address. I almost put “the Dwayne” there but even referring to myself in the third person for a moment seemed outrageous so I didn’t want to push my luck with the use of a definite article. (more…)

Sep. 23 2008 – Everything and Anything

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

                As the subject implies, this entry will attempt to cover the various thoughts and emotions I seem to be going through of late. I can’t estimate how long it will or what path it will take. It will most likely be some sort of stream of consciousness that, given my current state, is more like a murky stream of consciousness. I don’t know where I should begin, but 3:45 a.m. seems to be a good place, so let’s start there. (more…)

Dec. 5 2008 – The Year that tried to break me

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

              I am about to reveal something embarrassing, but it is the quintessential moment that captures the essence of my 2008. Going into this year, I had high hopes for 2008. The year 2007 was tough for many reasons, but I survived it as best as I could. Even before 2008 began, a good friend of mine wrote it off and said 2009 would be his year. I boldly declared that 2008 belonged to me. Then life, fate, juju or whatever one wishes to call it, proved me wrong and did so in a powerful way. Generally people say “spectacular fashion” and while I understand that the word spectacular can describe magnitude rather than giving an indication of being good, I would like to avoid any confusion. And now on to the embarrassing moment I promised, which is, I cried at the song, “Songbird” by Kenny G. (more…)

Feb. 24 2009 – Building Blocks

by dwayneb on Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

Sometimes I think this cycle never ends. We slide from top to bottom then we turn and climb again. And it seems by the time I figure what it’s worth, the squeaking of our skin against the steel has gotten worse. But if I move my place in line, I’ll lose. And I have waited, the anticipation has got me glued. I am waiting for something to go wrong, I am waiting for familiar resolve. I am waiting for another repeat, another diet fed by crippling defeat. I am waiting for that sense of relief.  – Death Cab for Cutie, “Expo ‘86” (more…)